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Sunday, 8 April 2012

5 Ways To Destroy The Illusion Of Fear

Can you remember the last time you really wanted to do something, but didn’t? What stopped you, what changed your mind? Was it that voice inside your head? Have you ever stopped to question, who and what that voice is? Fear. Fear is the catalyst for inaction. Fear is the voice that tells us, if we try, the probability of failure will be higher than that of success, that rejection is more likely than acceptance, fear is the impetus that makes us do nothing instead.

In his most recent novel, ‘Aleph’, Paolo Coehlo says that, it’s in fact, not courage but willpower that leads to success. He says that willpower provides us with the determination and dedication required to pursue our dreams and not the absence of fear.

If we look at all of the successful people in the world, Ghandi, Steve Jobs, Mandella, Donald Trump, above all else, they possessed the fortitude to keep going. They all experienced issues along the way, however, when they embarked on their journey, they never anticipated the road to be a smooth one. So any problems they encountered, motivated them more, they chose to keep going when others would have given up, they chose to fight not retreat, they chose … freedom.

Here is a list of points to help you overcome your fears:

(1) Feel the fear and do it anyway

You might remember this title from the best selling book by Dr Susan Jeffers. In her book, Dr Jeffers talks about developing assertiveness and challenging our negative thought patterns. She also talks about how we can extend our comfort zone by taking risks. The message to be learned then is that the only way we can overcome our fears is by confronting them. Put your fear aside, and just do it.

(2) Go beyond reason

I recently watched the film ‘Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close’. Following the movie, I was researching the events of 911 on the Internet, and I came across an article listing accounts of several people who were delayed on that fateful day. People lost their car keys, others were caught in traffic, one woman was late for work because she forgot to set her alarm, another man got stuck on the freeway because of an accident … the stories are endless.

Sometimes we’re not aware of the master plan, the grand design and it isn’t until some time has passed, when we reflect back, we possess an understanding of why we met someone, why we missed that train or that an unforeseen obstacle or delay was in fact a blessing in disguise or the universe conspiring. Call it destiny, serendipity but regardless, remember, there is always a reason why things happened, even if we’re not aware of it at the time.

(3) Too little, too late

Eight years ago my father was diagnosed with reflux. After a further year with no resolve, he decided to seek a second opinion. However, it was too late, the doctor diagnosed him with liver cancer which was in the advanced stages, and he was given 2 months to live. That was in November of 2004, by January the following year, he had passed. When my sisters and I were sorting through his papers, we came across a visa application for Burma. My father had left his home town 35 years ago and had always vowed to return. Have you heard the expression ‘too late she cried’? If my father had sought a second opinion sooner or not waited 35 years to return to Burma, perhaps this story would have a different ending. That holiday you’ve never had, the language class you never enrolled in, the friend you never made amends with, don’t find yourself saying, ‘I always wanted to … ‘ instead, write your bucket list and start planning your goals.

(4) Regrets

If you ever speak to those that are somewhat older and wiser, they will tell you that, in life, we usually regret the things we didn’t do, rather than the things we did. If you spend your life procrastinating, you will never know the outcome. And remember, no result is a negative one. It’s what you make of your experiences, every moment, every encounter shapes you, bringing you to the point in your life, you’re at now. A wise man once said,

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves – regret for the past and fear of the future.”

(5) Finding Obstacles

How many times have you found yourself making an excuse for why you haven’t done something? ‘It’s too hard … I’m too tired … I haven’t got time?’ Does that sound familiar? We are all perpetrators of that mind set at one time or another in our lives, however, successful people invest the time and effort even when they don’t feel like it. Successful people do things the things that others find difficult. They take calculated risks, they are accountable for their actions, they have initiative are motivated, passionate and encourage others. They weren’t born successful or ‘lucky’, they achieved their goals through determination, hard work and by being fearless, they have courage of their convictions. They find opportunities … not obstacles.

Feel the fear, and do it anyway.

Article By Charlette Barry From

Quotes To Live By

  • "Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. Especially when that time will pass you by anyway."
  • "Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher. Life is already filled with enough people who want to bring you down."
  • "One of the most important keys to Success is having the discipline to do what you know you should do, even when you dont feel like doing it."
  • "You cannot be all things to all people. Don't be afraid to make people mad. Your honesty will inspire your true followers."
  • "Never regret anything that made you smile. You have one life to live & when it's all said and done, you will know....happiness is a choice."
  • "You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine."

Thursday, 22 March 2012

Warren Buffet’s 5 Life Tips

  On Earning:  Never depend on a single income. Make Investments to create a second source.” 
  On Spending:If you buy things you do not need, soon you will have to sell things you need.” 
  On Savings:Do not save what is left after spending, spend what is left after saving.” 
  On Taking Risks:Never test the depths of the river with both of your feet.”
  On Expectations: “Honesty is a very expensive gift. Do not expect it from cheap people.”

Thursday, 16 February 2012

Newton's Three Laws of Politics

If Newton were alive and seen the present Indian Political Scenario, he would have come up with something like this:

Newton's 1st Law of Politics: A politician would continue with his/her merriment, ribbon cutting, statue inauguration ( in case of Mayawati, her own) and not to forget corruption.... in the pink of his/her health, until and unless subjected with a judicial arrest when he/she will suddenly get sick with some awfully awful disease and get hospitalized!! #BSY 

Newton's 2nd Law of Politics: The resultant ridicule of a political party is directly proportional to the enormity of the goofiness of the statement made by its stalwarts ( and that means you #Digvijay #Singh!!)

Newton's 3rd Law of Politics: Every SCHEME has an equal and opposite SCAM!!

क्या हिंदु भ्रष्टाचार और काले धन के खिलाफ नहीं बोल सकते ?

(1) क्या हिंदु भ्रष्टाचार और काले धन के खिलाफ नहीं बोल सकते ?
(2) क्या आर एस एस जो एक राष्ट्रवादी संगठन है तो अब क्या इस वजह से भ्रष्टाचार उसे हमेशा सहते रहना होगा ?
(3) भा ज पा अगर एक ऎसी राजनीतिक पार्टी है जो देश के हिन्दुओं के हित के बारे में भी बोलती है तो क्या वो भ्रष्टाचार और काले धन पर नहीं बोल सकती ?
(4) क्या अगर हम हिन्दु संगठनों के साथ काम करते हैं तो भ्रष्टाचार और काले धन के लिये आंदोलन नहीं कर सकते ?
(5) क्या हिन्दुस्तान के दूसरे धर्म संगठन भी भ्रष्टाचार और काले धन के खिलाफ नहीं बोल सकते ? अगर वो भ्रष्टाचार और काले धन के खिलाफ बोलेंगें तो क्या वो भी सांप्रदायिकता कहलायेगी ?

दोस्तों अगर छद्म धर्म निरपेक्ष भ्रष्टाचार कर सकते हैं तो क्या हिंदु भ्रष्टाचार और काले धन के खिलाफ आंदोलन नहीं कर सकते ?

मेरे मत से इस देश का हर नागरिक, हर धार्मिक संगठन,हर सामाजिक संगठन,हर राजनीतिक संगठन इस बात का हक रखता है कि वो भ्रष्टाचार और काले धन के खिलाफ अहिंसात्मक आंदोलन करे ।
आप सभी के विचार चाहिये ।